The information on many websites will tell you that the signs or symptoms of the Manic phase of bipolar disorder and is in black text here. I have translated these terms into real life actions from our experience with a Bipolar Sociopath in red text.
- Euphoria, He is my soul mate! (Again??? New month, new soul mate) He understands me and treats me like gold, we have the same goals, he's wonderful! A month or two later, she says, It was a toxic relationship, I never loved him, we had problems from the beginning, he's an asshole.
- Extreme optimism, Unrealistic thinking without the benefit of any financial resources, family resources skills, etc.
- Inflated self-esteem, I'm a great mother! (After losing custody of two and giving the third up for adoption, not in that order)
- Poor judgment, Lying! Meeting men on line, posting children's picture on sites where you talk about sexual positions, sending pornographic pictures of self over the internet, sexting while in a relationship, cheating when you and your child may be kicked out for cheating, taking your child to bars and staying out till closing time...
- Rapid speech
- Racing thoughts
- Aggressive behavior, Physically abusive to others, material destruction such as car or computer, ending up in jail and taking court ordered anger management courses
- Agitation or irritation, All the time!!! Who will I be mad at today?
- Increased physical activity, Let's go party!
- Risky behavior, See Poor Judgment
- Spending sprees or unwise financial choices, Enrolling for college, attending one class and then quitting without withdrawing, not paying car insurance, etc.
- Increased drive to perform or achieve goals, Going to the court house first thing in the morning and getting a restraining order against someone falsely accusing them of rape and child molestation just because you were mad. Doing it twice. Taking your child to numerous doctors to look for sexual abuse to make a case, despite being told by numerous doctors that there isn't any evidence. Calling the police screaming frantically to a 911 officer, while hiding the children in a closet and telling them your once soul mate is violating the restraining order, when they are in fact out of town.
- Increased sex drive, See Poor Judgment
- Decreased need for sleep, Up all night, sleep all day, how's that song go? Benadryl abuse, it's great for the kids too!
- Inability to concentrate
- Careless or dangerous use of drugs or alcohol, Everyday is Miller time, why not, their not buying
- Frequent absences from work or school, Not only do they not get up but they don't take their child to school either.
- Delusions or a break from reality (psychosis) This is the most serious. You will never ever, ever be able to get through to them unless they are in treatment and even then it's extremely difficult. If they see the error of their ways, it's momentarily and most of the time they don't mean it when they say sorry and instead resent you for bringing it up. They are the constant VICTIM, everything is always done to them, they have NO personal responsibility nor do they care about anyone but themselves. Year after year they will repeat the same old tired lines, no personal growth, same pattern of self-destruction. This person will also make up things about everything, from her education to her job, to her family...It never ends.
- Poor performance at work or school, These people are often underemployed, working part time, if they can hold a job longer than a few weeks or months. They have a lot of complications getting along with anyone for any good period of time. They may ask you to make a large purchase to go into a business for themselves and then just change their minds and leave you with the bill.
- Stupidity and ignorance, about nearly everything except how they "feel" and what they "need" from you to be stable and happy.
- Fearful and paranoid, if you can get a leash on this dog, they will still bark a good game, but are terrified of going to court. But only if you can shut them down and gain the upper hand. Act fast! Find a good lawyer and give them everything you have. It's worth it.
The Depressive phase of bipolar disorder are once again in black text and the translation in red text.
- Sadness, When they realize they can no longer fool you, nor get their way.
- Hopelessness, See Sadness
- Suicidal thoughts or behavior, I wish! These people care more about themselves than anyone else in every way , I could not imagine our BP person ever having the guts to harm herself.
- Anxiety, That's when they've screwed up again and are harassing you over the consequences they will have to suffer due to your beautiful court order. Just blow it off.
- Guilt, 5...4...3...2...1...Gee glad that's over! I feel much better now and look...I now hate you for making me feel guilty.
- Sleep problems, See Above
- Low appetite or increased appetite, As long as I'm not cooking, I'm cool.
- Fatigue, Let's see... Fatigue, Fibromalgia, what else can I come up with? Our BP is a hypochondriac.
- Loss of interest in daily activities, Working, Cleaning, Cooking and Taking care of my kids gets in the way of my phone and Facebook time.
- Problems concentrating, Unless I'm on the Phone, my Facebook page or lying...
- Irritability, I hate you because your too controlling, how dare you make me leave the bar on our wedding anniversary just because I was talking more to that other guy than you. After I get arrested tonight for punching, kicking, biting you and breaking the windshield of the car you just bought me, I think I'll tell the cop driving me to the station that your molest the children if I'm not home ...again.
- Chronic pain without a known cause, Our Bipolar person, a chronic pain without a known cause
- Frequent absences from work or school, See Above
- Poor performance at work or school, See Above
The absolute worst thing about this particular Bipolar person is the LYING!!!
Lying is the worst because when these people do it, they do it well. Expert level. If they get the upper hand, it WILL cost you your home, your children, your money, your freedom and possibly your life.Don't take for granted that you are not dating a sociopath.Bipolar people use these words and phrases frequently:
- Stable
- Toxic
- Healthy
- Cut me to the core
- Icing on the cake
- Abusive, Emotionally Abusive, Verbally Abusive, Sexually Abusive
- Controlling
- Stress
- Drama
- I don't want to fight anymore
- Living in fear
- I'm worried about you
- I don't feel safe around you
- Out to get me
- Peace and Happiness
- Our relationship is over, it's for the best - (fuck the kids)
- I deserve...
- I need...
- I feel...
- Your controlling
- Your unstable
- It's unfair...bla, bla, bla, over and over again, for "6" Fucking Years!!!!!
My first impressions of our sociopath:
- Always dressed to show off her cleavage and her fat ass
- She is a victim of sexual abuse
- Her mother had several marriages, she had several step-fathers
- She is overly personal
- She is too friendly
- She needs a place to live and soon because of the "abuse"
- She wants to get pregnant right away
- She's still in another relationship with a so called "abusive asshole"
- She's pregnant right now
- She has a record civil and/or criminal, lots of family drama - look into it!
- She claims her family abused her
- A sibling/parent is in jail
- You met her on line
- She wants to get to know and be part of your family really fast
- Let the lies begin, you'll have to write em down to keep track
- Will pull you away from your family because they don't accept her and wont run to another state last minute for your wedding.
- Don't let your this person alienate you from your son or daughter, stand up for what you know and confront her with full support of other family. Better to be safe than sorry.
- If worse comes to worse, go to the wedding and STOP IT unless she's pregnant then you will have to get married or allow the marriage to ensure more legal rights later. Take this time to save for the attorneys retainer.
Good Luck!
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